Further Thoughts on Full Commitment

[Dave Samuel]

On the way home from class tonight I realized I've been making a mental mistake expecting defeat when sparring against partners who I perceive to be more skilled than me. For instance, when sparring Mr. Oliver, I expect to take hits, and I am surprised when I land a blow. It seems to me that this is the wrong attitude. Regardless of skill level, speed or size, going into a fight expecting to get thumped seems like an excellent way to get thumped.

What I am struggling with is trying to find the balance between accepting losing or winning as possible outcomes of a sparring match without expecting to lose or win a match. The first (acceptance), seems good, as I believe acceptance of the possibility of defeat (or victory) is a prerequisite to being to set aside worries and commit fully to sparring. The second (expecting to lose or win), leads to either negative self-talk and a self-fulfilling prophecy of losing or hopes of victory which are dashed when my partner lands their first blow.

In any case, my goal for sparring next week is to face each sparing partner without expectations of victory or defeat.

[Lisa Clark]

Very important distinction to make. It reminds me of the other day in the Little Dragons class during the Noodle Jump game. One of our kids said, "Ah! I can't make it..." Mr. Oliver corrected him. Before he tried, he said in a loud kiai voice, "I can make it!" And? He did. Just like your sparring is already improved from your new attitude. Kudos!